I'd like to point at this post by julesjones, and this post by zeborah.
Likewise, I've posted a small bit of my own. Links here for the LiveJournal version and here for the Dreamwidth version.
I find it difficult and a bit scary to speak up for my beliefs when it's not something I see as shared with a lot of my friends, particularly when, as now, it's also about trying to reclaim a word that many see only as associated with hatred and bigotry. But sometimes it's more important than it is difficult.